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Transcending People Pleasing



He asked, "I am having a problem with people-pleasing, what can I do to change?" This is a question we get very often. When people begin to ask these types of questions it means they have started to see themselves; which is true recovery of spiritual sight. People can live their entire lives not seeing themselves; therefore can't change, but always seeing others as being the cause of their misery and misfortunes.


To this question Danielle answered, "You are most likely having a problem with truly loving yourself. We will go in details very soon. But most likely you are unable to say no to people and when people say no to you you take it offensively. The fear of rejection, not being loved, and not being accepted are the root causes of this issue. You subconsciously have developed the belief that you are not enough unless someone loves you, accepts you, or agrees with you."


If we were to take a wild guest we would also say that you are also indecisive and you are not able to follow through most of the times on the things that you promised yourself you would do. You are impatient and like to multi-task, while you avoid the things that are most important to you. You are probably hard on yourself.  Finally we would say that there are one or two specific people in your life that you constantly seek approval from.

These are usually some of the symptoms of the people pleasing syndrome you mentioned.


"If left uncured this can lead to mental fogginess and confusion, a disconnection to your truest feelings and a fear to express what’s truly on your mind. It can lead to self-resentment and in some cases eating uncontrollably. People pleasing can cause one to abort one’s life mission and truest path. At the psychic level this can lead to self-activated stress and anxiety which can lead to chronic conditions in the body." Danielle added.


Alain: "There is a healthy way to please people. For example, I love to please my mentors by doing well and following through with the assignments they give me. Pleasing people can actually be a healthy motivation to reach a higher goal or to achieve your highest potential. The people please that is unhealthy is when you are begging for love, begging for attention, and you are afraid to lose people's approval."



Danielle: "The solution is to redeem the part of you that is constantly looking to please people. To redeem means to love unconditionally and to accept this people-pleasing part of you fully or you will resent it. What do I mean by accepting fully? You cannot change what you resent. So to not resent, you must first accept what you do not like about you. How does it make you feel? How is it affecting your life? How will your life improve without it? What will you be able to become and do without it. You want to answer those questions and create the right feelings to work with. "


People Pleasing is a personality disorder. You can bring that personality back into order. it is the distorted version of your inner child. Therefore, you have to redeem it and restore it. When you see that personality in action, observe it and simply say to it “I love you”. Say positive things such as “I see you”, “I know you are love and divine, you are whole and complete”. I am proud of you. I believe in your capacity to fully be what you are meant to be in this lifetime and to learn what you are here to learn and to grow. I am so proud of you." Know that this part of you is just looking from others what it feels incapable of giving to itself.


Growing up some of the experiences you’ve had left some negative energies that are now trapped in your energy centers and seat in your auric body. Your brain picks up those signals from your aura and replays those events through your personalities. You are simply victim of the past. You need to awaken the divine power in you in order to transcend the people pleasing program all together.


We can teach you how to activate this power within you through a simple tool called AURAGRAM to activate the love-energy from your energy centers. You will develop a strong connection with your SELF. You will learn to listen to your truest feelings and act upon your authentic voice. 


You will also develop the ability to say no and to believe in your choices and decisions. You will respect other people's choices and love them regardless of what they may say or believe about you. You will not seek for approval as you will learn to trust your divine instinct called intuition or inspiration.  You will experience a divine flow, which will lead to the ultimate state of bliss or the awakening of FULL ENTHUSIASM.


The Teachings Of Alain and Danielle

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GABRIEL CRUZ

Spiritual Student | Warehouse Manager

Alain and Danielle are a couple that has given me clarity in my vision through their spiritual teachings. When I met my amazing teachers, I was at a point in my life where I was unsure of where to maneuver my self, where to place my energy, and what my calling is to this world. By making these lessons practical and productive I am moving towards my goal of becoming my best self for the betterment of those around me. As a student of theirs, I know my life will never be the same again because if this amazing couple. Their wisdom and guidance is something truly nourishing to the mind, body, and soul. I believe you have come here for a reason just as I have. You deserve to live one happy life, so answer the call to your highest self and invest into these life changing, practical and powerful lessons. 

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NICOLE LUEVANO

Spiritual Student | Yoga Instructor 

Alain and Danielle have been true and living angels in my life. They have revolutionized everything, from my finances, to my spirituality, to my relationships and everything in between. They have gifted me the practical perspective of spirituality that every human being deserves to know. For that, I am endlessly grateful. If you are reading this, and life has brought you to this page, please invest into yourself. Consider this the answer you have been seeking, and your pathway back to happiness

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Christy Jones

Holistic Health & Mindfulness Coach

With Alain’s teachings I have been able to understand what vibrational alignment is and then do the
work to clear out damaging vibrations in my aroura that would prevent me from living my true-life
purpose and my most joyful life. His gift of being able to see what I needed, teach it in a way that was
easy to understand and brake down into simple steps was very effective for me. Learning the power of
the point of yes has also be foundational in training my mind to create a more peaceful way of being.
These trainings have changed how I feel in life and how I understand the world we live in. These
concepts have flowed into my work with my own clients, the schools I teach in and vision I have of the
future. It is has allowed to know myself and others in a deep and profound way. It has changed every
aspect of my life. I will be forever grateful for this work with Alain. I had no idea what to expect and I
trusted his presence and the energy he is. With gratitude. 

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KHALIA McGEE

Spiritual Student | Speech Therapist

Alain & Danielle are such phenomenal people who have tremendously impacted my life with the love, compassion, and authenticity that they continuously give. When I met them I was at a place in my life where I was scared, exhausted and desperately searching for answers. They truly have brought hope and joy back into my life & have led me to a true place of love, forgiveness, & acceptance. When you take this course you will be blown away by its practicality & truthfulness.

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JOSEPH DESINCE

Spiritual Student | Podcast Host

Alain & Danielle are an amazing couple that came into my life and changed it for the better. They have helped me to be better mentally,spiritually and socially. The best people that I can ever ask for. When they came into my life I was upside down and with there guidance and help they turned me right side up. If you are reading please take my word for it this is the prayer you have been asking God for. Make the decision and watch your life be transformed. Thank you Alain and Danielle.

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DANA PEDRO

Spiritual Student | Art Therapist

Alain and Danielle Dagba are truly life changers with their simple spiritual principles with easy practical applications. I went from an anxiety- filled , unfocused person who was unsure about life because I had stopped dreaming to becoming an inspirational speaker and art therapist. The teachings of Alain and Danielle have unlocked my ability to dream and have opened  the door for me so that I am walking in my purpose in life with a boldness and certainty I have never had before.  If you are truly looking for a lasting change in the most positive way in your life, their teachings is the solution.

HERLAY DIVINE

Spiritual Therapist

I’m so grateful to have met Alain and Danielle, there ministry has brought me back from the dead. Spiritually, when I meet them I was in a place where I couldn’t recognize myself. Putting into practice their teaching has brought me to a place where I see myself as a Divine being, who is capable to give love and receive love, in the most miraculous way. If your looking to be revived, this couple and their teachings will do the job.

ANTOINE DUMAS

Spiritual Student | Attorney

Pst. Dagba and his wife, through their spiritual parenting sessions, have been pouring into my family for over two years now. As a result of their teachings, my marriage is thriving like never before, my business is prospering like never before and my spiritual growth has been literally out of this world!

ESPERANZA

Spiritual Student | Entrepreneur 

My Daughter Nikkie told me, sometime around August 2019, that I should attend Alain and Danniele’s Sunday Service, because she’s known, I’ve been searching for freedom, as my life seemed to be getting darker. So I attended the service , ...and have been since then. For I have found, what I’ve been looking for...I am experiencing, what I am learning. What I am importantly learning is, I MUST PRACTICE, ALL THAT I LEARN. I am actually, now practicing. Practicing to think  positive. ONLY POSITIVE, only positive...to be free and truly happy. I’m seeing, feeling, and witnessing this True and Genuine kindness surrounding me, Thus, my thoughts are thinking positive, It’s a practice, 
But I see that, it is through this practice I can feel and think only good thoughts

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